Pawnshop No. 8 episode 11

Am watching this taiwan drama called pawnshop no. 8. Its a pawnshop which allows to pawn anything, in order to recieve anything. You can pawn body parts to get money, intelligence to get love, ur health so that the one u love can be healthy.

In this particular episode, a computer genius pawns his genius for the ability to understand what his wife is thinking, in an attempt to salvage his marriage. They have been married for 3 years, but he keeps neglecting her for work, and his wife finally lost it when she miscarriage.

But as the show proceeds on, u realise that although he can understand what she is thinking, he doesnt really understands her. He noes what she likes, but not why she likes it. He noes what she wants, but doesnt get why she wants its. For example, the wife wants to go for high tea, shopping, then dinner. So he suggests the plan as if its his own in order to gain favour, however, the main issue is that she doesnt remember what he likes to eat anymore, since he eats at home so seldom. And he does nothing to remedy it. He accompanys her to high tea, but he doesnt appreciate the tea at all, and starts ordering soft drinks. He asks his wife why she likes it, but doesnt wait for an answer.

For a relationship to work, a couple really have to work hard to understand each other. Not just the likes and dislikes, but also the reasons behind it. If one party has to keep giving in, its not going to go well. Everyone has their limits, if one person gives in all the time, that limit will be reached very soon. If both of they are willing to compromise and take turns to give in to one another, then neither of them will feel pressured in an relationship. The stress doesnt build up that fast, and understanding will allow a couple to tolerate differences better.

The key to this, is communication. A couple has to talk things out. They have to try their best to understand why their partner doesnt like it when they do something. For example, the wife doesnt really hates his genius or his work. What his wife really hates, is the fact that he is so engrossed, he drops her and keeps her waiting, forgets impt days, and is not ard when she found out that she's pregnant and when she miscarriages. He found out everything too late. On his side, he thinks a married couple has all the time they want to work things out and spend time together in the future, like at some vague pt when he retires, after all marriage is for life, right? Pls lor, u dun have time to show her concern, to find out how she spends her days, who her friends are, wat she likes to do and dun attempt to understand why she likes them, who is going to stay with u for life?

I find the husband to be an big idiot, to expect his wife to understand when he doesnt go home for three days without telling her anything and being uncontactable throughout that whole time. Who wouldnt have blown their top? Unless they do not care for their husbands at all.

So many factors can affect a relationship. But truly, love is not enuf to sustain a relationship, i not even talking abt money issues here, i am talking abt truly understanding the person u love. Its hard. There are always things that u cannot understand and issues that u will both be stubborn about. A couple must always remember to place their relationship at first place, and be willing to work out differences for the sake of their relationship.

Taken from episode 12: 爱情，不是婚姻的全部，只是开启婚姻的一把钥匙。婚姻，也是信任、了解、依赖、关怀，和无限的牺牲奉献。

Bardic Voices

Currenlty I have the first bk, borrowed from Cui. I oso have the third and fourth, which i rented from the sans bkshop at jurong pt. Where is the 2nd book!?! *sobs* but I have already decided not to buy, tho it is nice. I'll just borrow or rent in order to finish reading the series.

Abt yesterday...

Wish u a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!~~~

Went my fren's bdae party yesterday. She was so busy running ard i think i spent more time with her dog than her. :P But Ricky is cute, here are some pics of that greedy dog:

Hope she likes the presents my bf and i got her. We got her an aromatic nightlight. It a rather fancy looking nightlight with a little glass cup on the top to put scented oil in. Hope she likes the scent i picked. I also gave her a pair of earrings I made myself. Wanted to see her reaction after she opened it but she didnt get a chance to b4 I left. Sigh... hope she likes it.

Pissed

Table tennis practice was a waste of time. Why? cause we didnt practice a single thing.

No captain, no equiment, and only 2 other guys turned up. If i wasnt so sure i needed the practice, i would just appear on competition day where i at least can find somebody.

What a waste of time. Its not surprising why i devote myself to othello instead each yr. We have strong and close team, which has enuf power to conduct our own practice and get ppl to come down. And at the very least, the captains do not abandon practice without telling anyone and making arrangements. I was so pissed i smsed the sports sec threatening to quit if nobody can confirm practice and competition time with me.

Dear lord, why do i pity them and help them each yr? Thank goodness this is the last yr. And if i do come back to hostel, u can be sure it will not be to offer my services to the table tennis team EVER again (if one exists in the first place. how can a scattered bunch of ppl ever be considered a team? even if they are strong?).

Photos on 'D' day

Photos taken of the team on the day of Semi Finals and Finals. So happy we won Gold! Gd job guys. :D

GOLD

We won! Hall 15 got the gold medal for the first time! :D And I shall have a gold medal to add to my silver one. hehe....

2nd was hall 10, 3rd was hall 6 and 4th was hall 9.

1st in Grp today! Semi and Finals tmr. Why i nv join othello but help table tennis!?!

I nv join Othello this year but i came down to support my team. And help them to spy via umpiring other teams! Muhaha..... NOTS. Umpiring is boring. Nearly fell aslp once. And u gleam very little benefit from it oso. So dun try this method anymore, k ppl?

This yr's teams was all guys, cas i'm not playing and S went back to India. P is not interested either. Guess hall 15 is turing back into an all guys team.

But the Guys did very well. We beat every single hall in our grp! :D Tmr is semi-finals vs hall 9 and then against either 6 or 10, if we in finals. Actually, I quite sure we can make it. As the guys put it, if they are weak enuf to be placed as 2nd in the grp, we shdnt wry abt playing them. Tho this sounds super arrogant. :P

Even tho I nv join othello this yr, I agreed to help table tennis play female doubles this yr. It was out of pity mostly. Cas the sports sec approached me a few hrs ago to personally ask, and they sound prett desperate. Besides, my usual hall doubles partner did the taiji on me, saying "if she play then i play" so i cant do the taiji anymore. At least i will noe my partner oso. Last yr she wasnt playing, and the whole thing felt so crappy. I dun even remember what position i played and with who. Tho its most likely doubles. The hall people already noe i dun have the skill or inclination to play singles. If they request I prob wont play. And they prob hoping casting me and my old partner will help them secure game. I doubt so lah. I nv play so long and so physically weak now. My partner shd still be fit, since she's an all round sportswoman type, but i noe she hardlys plays oso. Table tennis is like one of her least faves. Hmm... so y am i doing this again?