Pawnshop No. 8 episode 11

Am watching this taiwan drama called pawnshop no. 8. Its a pawnshop which allows to pawn anything, in order to recieve anything. You can pawn body parts to get money, intelligence to get love, ur health so that the one u love can be healthy.

In this particular episode, a computer genius pawns his genius for the ability to understand what his wife is thinking, in an attempt to salvage his marriage. They have been married for 3 years, but he keeps neglecting her for work, and his wife finally lost it when she miscarriage.

But as the show proceeds on, u realise that although he can understand what she is thinking, he doesnt really understands her. He noes what she likes, but not why she likes it. He noes what she wants, but doesnt get why she wants its. For example, the wife wants to go for high tea, shopping, then dinner. So he suggests the plan as if its his own in order to gain favour, however, the main issue is that she doesnt remember what he likes to eat anymore, since he eats at home so seldom. And he does nothing to remedy it. He accompanys her to high tea, but he doesnt appreciate the tea at all, and starts ordering soft drinks. He asks his wife why she likes it, but doesnt wait for an answer.

For a relationship to work, a couple really have to work hard to understand each other. Not just the likes and dislikes, but also the reasons behind it. If one party has to keep giving in, its not going to go well. Everyone has their limits, if one person gives in all the time, that limit will be reached very soon. If both of they are willing to compromise and take turns to give in to one another, then neither of them will feel pressured in an relationship. The stress doesnt build up that fast, and understanding will allow a couple to tolerate differences better.

The key to this, is communication. A couple has to talk things out. They have to try their best to understand why their partner doesnt like it when they do something. For example, the wife doesnt really hates his genius or his work. What his wife really hates, is the fact that he is so engrossed, he drops her and keeps her waiting, forgets impt days, and is not ard when she found out that she's pregnant and when she miscarriages. He found out everything too late. On his side, he thinks a married couple has all the time they want to work things out and spend time together in the future, like at some vague pt when he retires, after all marriage is for life, right? Pls lor, u dun have time to show her concern, to find out how she spends her days, who her friends are, wat she likes to do and dun attempt to understand why she likes them, who is going to stay with u for life?

I find the husband to be an big idiot, to expect his wife to understand when he doesnt go home for three days without telling her anything and being uncontactable throughout that whole time. Who wouldnt have blown their top? Unless they do not care for their husbands at all.

So many factors can affect a relationship. But truly, love is not enuf to sustain a relationship, i not even talking abt money issues here, i am talking abt truly understanding the person u love. Its hard. There are always things that u cannot understand and issues that u will both be stubborn about. A couple must always remember to place their relationship at first place, and be willing to work out differences for the sake of their relationship.

Taken from episode 12: 爱情，不是婚姻的全部，只是开启婚姻的一把钥匙。婚姻，也是信任、了解、依赖、关怀，和无限的牺牲奉献。