有心栽花花不开，无心插柳柳成荫

The above is a chinese saying which translates into, putting in a lot of effort to grow flowers but it did not bloom, randomly stick a willow branch in the ground and it grows into a tree. I spend effort trying to recruit girls, and I only got one new girl. I allow the boys to join for the first time, and over 20 flocked to me. Should I cry or laugh? Maybe I should close my girls team.